Thin privilege is not being told, “you’re not chubby, you’re beautiful”, as if you can’t be both.
People ask me how I got my confidence and sometimes I don’t know how to answer it… So here goes..
There was a day when I decided to stop repeating those things to myself like “you’re dumb, you’re fat, you’re worthless, nobody will ever like you”
I would look at myself in the mirror and a slew of these thoughts would interrupt anything positive I could even begin to feel. One day I decided that’s not okay and I can’t keep telling myself these things. So, I just didn’t anymore. If I thought something negative about myself, I would immediately reinforce it with something positive. Like “hey, I’m a great listener, i’m a great cook, I’m a really good friend, I am beautiful, I am a great photographer, I love life, I have compassion, I am really actually great and wonderful.”
Now sometimes, lately more so than not, those thoughts creep in, sometimes it’s inevitable not to let him consume me and let them make me feel bad about who I am. There are days when I still feel uncomfortable in my own skin and can’t stand who I’m becoming. And that’s when I try to remind myself.
The truth is, confidence is a journey. It’s not something you will always be able to feel, it’s something you have to fight for and practice daily. I promise it gets easier, but sometimes it’s just not. And that’s okay too.
there’s no excuse
for me to love you
because you are a bad love